When Should Mothers Pay Child Support?


(Pennsylvania, United States)

My situation is as follows, I make a little over 15 dollars and hour bi-weekly or 80 hrs. My ex wife makes 24.50 an hr bi-weekly but works 64 hrs or 32 hrs weekly. Get this, she's a registered nurse and was offered a job paying 29 dollars and hr full-time.

She turned it down claiming the job was to far away, it's 25 minutes from the house. She just graduated nursing school last summer, who turns down 60, 000 a year right out of college? I'll explain to you all why I suspect she did it later in this message. Here's the deal, even with her working 64 hrs she makes more money than I do.

So now, I'm paying for healthcare for my 13 month old son and my 3 month old daughter, which is not a problem at all I'm more than happy to do that. The cost of this healthcare is 134 dollars a month.

Now, I at one time was was also paying for my kids childcare which cost me 160 dollars a month, during this time I was still in the home. We separated and I moved out and got my own pad, now keep in mind none of these obligations to my kids stopped and their healthcare is still being paid by me and will continue to be.

Once I got my own pad my ex-wife came up with this brilliant idea to have me stop paying the care taker directly because now she has gotten a subsidy from the county we live in to pay the care taker. So my first thought was "bet" that's 160 dollars a month I no longer have to worry about.



Then, the absurdity began. She then wanted me to give her a 100 dollars a month directly to her instead. Yeah, the nerve of this broad. Anyway, that's when I decided she makes more money than I do, she should be paying me. She has the kids 55% of the time to my 45%, I'll give her that.

Now, as I said earlier this is why she turned down 60k right outta school, the subsidy she has for childcare has income guidelines, 60k knocks that out the box. She also receives whats called wic in the state of PA, and wic provides baby formula and things of that nature.

However, it has income guidelines as well. 60k knocks that out the box too. She also receives a thousand dollars a month in food-stamps which also have income guidelines. 60k knocks that out the box too. She also has medicaid for herself and the kids, it cost her nothing because we all know medicaid is for low-income and poor people, but it too has income guidelines.

A registered nurse manipulating all of these various programs and not even working to her potential as far as the amount of income she could be making and has the audacity to seek payment from me? This is why I filed for child support against her. Tell me what ya'll think about my chances of PA awarding me support.

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When Should Mothers Pay Child Support?

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Your gonna take a "L"
by: Patrick

I feel your pain brother, but let me tell you what I suspect will happen. I myself am from PA as well so I know how domestic relations gets down. Despite all the manipulation she's doing to taxpayer paid programs, if she has the kids 55% of the time to your 45% your gonna loose. That's just my take on it.

Let me guess though, she's not allowing you to have your kids more than 45% of the time is she? If she knows how to manipulate all those other programs without being punished, you can best believe she's gonna manipulate the time you spend with your children. Your best bet would probably be to get a shared "physical" custody order then file your claim for child support.

The only thing they can go on then is her income which is more than yours. With the shared custody order in place that stipulates 50/50 time each of you spend with the kids. This way she's no more custodial than you are

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Grow up non-custodial parents
by: Anonymous

New to this site and reading some of the compliants the gentlman ex wife as a nurse and could make $60,000 a year. OMG! So sick of reading and listening to this CRAP! Daycare for a babies is costly , and formula is costly as well. So I understand why she wanted to stay under the guidelines to be able to get the services she needs. What dont you allow her to drop the help and you pay for the daycare and the formula.

YOU WILL really have a fit with this BROAD. (As you say). I'm a single mother of three children and do not see anything wrong on what you ex wife is doing. TAKE care of your darn children stop complianing all the time

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Brain dead
by: Anonymous

It figures you wouldn't see what's wrong with what the 60k nurse is doing wrong. However, lets look at it from this perspective SWEETHEART! What if those same services were denied to you and your children if you really needed them only to have the 60k nurse take them from right under your nose.

How righteous would she be then, miss "take care of your children"? The man said he was paying childcare and healthcare and was happy to do so. It appears he was doing a damn good job of taking care of his children if you ask me. It seems he had a problem with paying her money she didn't deserve.

To advocate what she is doing as right and not wrong, only justifies your ignorance, and furthermore your probably in the same boat with manipulating taxpayer paid programs too. Your probably one of those women who views child support as an entitlement. If the man is a deadbeat then by all means take him for child support, but if he's not then leave him the hell alone and let him continue to provide for his children nit wit!!!

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Brian
by: Anonymous

Making me really hot!!! First of all just pay for your darn children non-custodial parents then we will not have this problem. Who to say some of the services hasnt been provided for me because of the nurse making 60K.

The rich is doing a job already on taking stuff right under our nose. BUT OOOPS let me stick to child support. Okay he is taking care of his children so what damn if he needs to do extra then do what you need to do for your children, if she is doing something wrong I'm sure it will come back and bit her in the ass.

I view child support as a joke for the courts to handle, handle the support amongst each other then we would not have what we call CHILD SUPPORT ENFORCEMENT. I do have a dead beat non custodial parent and have been in the system for 19 years.

Thanks you NIT WIT ....Hats go off to the men who is taking care of their children but really do we need a court of law to tell you how much you need to give to take care of them. You didn't need the court when everyone was making these beautiful children...I'm HOT I never called anyone a "name" and YOU DONT WANT ME TO START BRIAN.



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Even more brain dead
by: Anonymous

Now we've reached the root of your anger. You yourself are experiencing the deadbeat dad, so naturally every other cat on the planet is a deadbeat too, is that it? Again, this man IS TAKING CARE OF HIS KIDS AND MENTIONED HE WAS HAPPY TO DO SO, oops sorry your deadbeat doesn't do and feel the same way.

Let me ask you this, why should he have to stop paying childcare that was apparently working out just find only to have to give his money to her instead? How about we rob peter to pay paul? I think what you fail to realize is this, not once in that article was it mentioned that dear old mom paid for anything, I mean absolutely nothing.

She gets a childcare subsidy so I'm sure she pays a minimal cost to the childcare, probably something like 12 bucks per kid. Whoppdy doo! The children's food cost is nothing, their healthcare cost is nothing, the two most important things to the kids are absolutely free, one paid by the father, the other paid by you and me (that is if you even work at all).

You need to give this man credit where credit is due. He stepped up and is doing what a father is suppose to do. The mother on the other hand would rather work and have you, I, and every other taxpayer take care of kids she chose to lay down and make. You've got no argument here, she's flat out wrong and you know. I'm pretty sure you can count, what mother receiving child support can't?

Let's just say she's not making 60k, at 24.50 an hr times 32hr a wk she's still making 43,000 a yr. The father doesn't even make that, yet took on the responsibility of paying for childcare and healthcare which you yourself said wasn't cheap. What more would you have this man do? What is the mother suppose to pay for? Do you know what mothers like this convey to their children?

That you can grow up in life without paying for anything as long as you know how to manipulate. It's a little different than shopping at your local grocery store with a coupon, that's bargain shopping. Other peoples taxes aren't to be used as coupons simply because you as a mother don't feel you too need to spend your money on your own children. I apologize for calling you names but in this case this woman is completely wrong and you know it!!!

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brain dead
by: Anonymous

You know what is really funny (HAHAHA) I heard what he is saying and if he really think it is wrong what is ex wife is doing i.e getting wic, thousand dollar of food stamp. medicare and subsidy on the daycare. THEN report her ass and tell social services that you're willing to pay.

You paid 134.00 a month for healthcare and it sound like while still in the house you paid $160.00 a month for daycare. REALLY $160.00 a month for daycare for two little babies, now was that payment a subsidy payment??? Because if it is not then we all should take out babies to that daycare because that is damn good for two babies a month.

AND if he is really having a problem PLEASE do not have any more children. OH I don't think the woman is wrong, because like I said if she is wrong then he is wrong......


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Repeatedly brain dead
by: Anonymous

No, whats really funny is you think what that woman did and is doing is right. If that father drops off the face of the earth right now, guess who pays for those children's healthcare and childcare? You me and every other working American.

Again, you fail to see what the mothers responsibility is here. Was she just responsible for pushing them out? The cost of the healthcare and childcare are irrelevant, the father pays them. Now if your childcare and healthcare cost more then tough shit for you isn't it?

Heres my question to you though since your so concerned with cost, what are you paying for? Because if your not paying for your kids childcare and healthcare then you have not a leg to stand on do you? This mans paying for those things, what warrants her to seek a payment to her from him? In what way was he or is he a deadbeat?

You really don't know how ignorant you sound! You been in the system for 19yrs? I wonder why that is? You have a deadbeat dad to your children, I wonder why that is? Do you have a job, or are you a section 8 stay at home mom who lives off of child support as if it were a salary?

There are millions of Americans who go to work everyday who don't make close to 43k, let alone 60k who provide for their families and have done so for years without any handouts whatsoever, and do you know why? Because those people have integrity and a decent moral core instilled in them, not a "get something for nothing" mentality. Which group do you fall into?

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Wasting time
by: Anonymous

My man, this argument ur having wit this chic is hilarious! Ur wasting ur time though because these woman can't stomach the thought of having 2 pay a man 4 their kids, that's why most of them that seek child support are either not working and don't intend 2 work or the got low income jobs struggling so they're looking 4 a supplement.

A real woman wit a real career that's making a good living ain't worried about child support, she's got her act 2gether. But if her act is 2gether enough 2 where a man is seeking support from her then that's ultimate sin in their eyes. 4get it bro ur wasting ur time going back and forth wit that ding bat man! Straight up!

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