New Jersey Stating Arrears I Live In New York

by "VIP MEMBER"..................
(New York)

I live in NY and I am the non custodial parent (Father)

Without any discussion from my ex wife I received a notice of Back Child Support around Thanksgiving of 2010 although I have been giving her money. This case has not previously been in the system. I as a responsible father who loves his son has him almost every weekend and gives the mother money for expenses and child care.

I have not been contacted by any agency in NY. I called NJ and asked them to call my ex wife to see if she would drop the case because we had never had any conversation about this. When I contacted NJ they said the case was originally filed in 2009 and until I brought this up with the ex wife around Christmas of 2010 she never said anything to me about the her filing...

Upon my second contact with NJ they say that they contacted her and she said she wants to move forward with the divorce stipulated amount and arrears.

NJ says they do not collect any money and that since I live in NY I have to go to court to get credit for what I feel I have paid since the divorce in 2008. Last week she stopped accepting the cash money I had been previously giving her.

What do I need to do to resolve this matter in NY. I would prefer not to be in the system but at the same time I do not want any further arrears to accrue. The woman I spoke to in NJ said that it seems as though my case has slipped through the cracks in NY because they have gone through the procedures on their end.