License Reinstated And Obtaining Visitation

by JAMES
(CLEVELAND, OHIO)

I HAVE A 11 MONTH OLD SON. THE CHILD SUPPORT ORDER IS FOR $251.00 A MONTH. I AM UNSURE HOW THAT AMOUNT WAS DETERMINED AS NEITHER MYSELF OR THE MOTHER ARE EMPLOYED.NOW OR WHEN THE ORDER WAS ISSUED. THE MOTHER IS ON PUBLIC ASSISTANCE. I AM A 21 YEAR OLD MALE WHO IS ACTIVELY LOOKING FOR A JOB. I KEEP MY SON FOR OVER NIGHT VISITS AT LEAST 3 TIMES A WEEK. I SUPPLY ALL HIS CLOTHES AND FOOD WHEN HE IS WITH ME. MY FAMILY HELPS ME.WHEN HIS MOM GETS MAD SHE COMES AND PICKS HIM UP AND TELL ME I CAN NOT SEE HIM AGAIN. I HAVE A WRITTEN SCHEDULE OF THE TIMES I HAVE HIM.SHE ALSO TELLS ME I CAN NOT HAVE HIM AROUND MY GIRLFRIEND. IF SHE FINDS OUT MY FRIEND IS AT MY HOUSE SHE CALLS TO TELL ME SHE IS COMING TO PICK UP HER SON. THE MOTHER CALLS ME WHEN HE NEEDS DIAPERS OR FOOD WHEN SHE HAS HIM.I TRY TO HELP HER BUT I TRIED TO EXPLAIN THAT ANY MONEY I GIVE HER DOES NOT COME OFF MY ARREAGE WITH THE COUNTY. BUT I CAN NOT SEE MY SON NEED THINGS AND NOT TRY TO HELP OUT. IF THERE IS SOMETHING I CAN'T DO MY PARENTS OR GRANDPARENTS HELP OUT. ANY MONEY I DO SEND IN DOES NOT GO TO THE MOTHER AS SHE IS ON ASSISTANCE. I WANT SHARED CUSTODY OR SHARED PARENTING BUT HIS MOTHER WILL NOT AGREE TO IT. WHAT SHOULD I DO. I WAS RAISED TO TAKE RESPONSIBLE. MY SON IS MY RESPONSIBLITY. SHE FEELS THAT IF MY FAMILY IS HELPING OUT FINANCIALLY THAT IS NOT ME DOING IT. WELL THAT IS HOW MY FAMILY IS. I WANT MY SON TO NO IS VERY WELL LOVED BY ALL OF US. MY FATHER HAD ME WHEN HE WAS 16 YEARS OLD. BUT HIS MOTHER RAISED HIM TO BE RESPONSIBLE. SHE HELPED SUPPORT ME (HER GRANDCHILD) AND MADE SURE MY FATHER AND MOTHER FINISHED SCHOOL. WHEN I TURNED 6 YEARS OLD MY FATHER TOOK ME TO LIVE WITH HIM. I WAS THERE UNTIL I TURNED 18. I AM HAPPY MY FATHER AND HIS FAMILY WERE AND STILL ARE A PART OF MY LIFE. I WANT NOTHING LESS FOR MY SON.