Informal Question About Court Order

by Theresa
(PA & NJ)

Well i am writing this email because I am a seeking neutral parties advice to a situation that has arose that could maybe be answered or point me in the right direction as to who may be able to help me. Here is the scenario: My daughter's father and i have a court ordered schedule regarding holiday's and that is that we are to work out the holiday's amongst each other. I have contacted him regarding this 4th of July holiday weekend and that our family has plans pertaining to it. I have asked him if it would be OK if i were to keep her this weekend as it falls on a weekend that he would normally take her.

I have given him more than significant time and have extended many options as to make up for the time that he would miss i.e. 2-3 weekends in a row, or to see her Sun to Mon night as well as extra time, or if there was another schedule that could be worked out that i would be willing abide by it. He unfortunately is refusing any option that i have offered and is not willing to work out the holiday weekend schedule due to the fact that it does fall on his weekend. I have tried to explain to him that we are to work it out amongst ourselves as to what the holiday schedule would be however he is unwilling to budge to be fair on the subject. We have not had a problem in the past so therefore there has not been a set schedule for the holidays.

My question is what at this point would i be willing to do because i do not want avoid any repercussions on either side. Would you be willing to give me advice on what my choices might be on the fairness and flexibility of the holiday weekend?