Im Frustrated About The Child Support System
In June 2008, I was granted a divorce via default. In that decree is the order for child support along with an order for my ex not to drink when he has the kids in his possession. When the divorce first happened, Idaho Child Support told us that if a payment was made directly to me( instead of going through child support), I could fill a form out to give him (my ex) credit. Apparently, some time last year that law has changed.
I was told that I would have to pay in order to get Child Support to help me enforce the order. Although, it says on the divorce decree that this order is enforceable. Now, my ex is 7 months(including May) (the state has him 9 months behind)behind in child support and I am the one who has to pay to make sure it is taken care of. How is that right? Furthermore, my ex is on probation for a DUI, and is still not held accountable.
My ex does not talk to me about child support and when it has been brought up,there was no work and he scraping by. I was willing to work with him on that(he didnt even call me or the state), but now he is working and I still get nothing. This summer my kids go to their dads for 6 weeks, in which he is not supposed to drink. I already know that this has been violated, but again I can not enforce it because I live in Oregon and he lives in Idaho and to "prove it" without using my kids would be diffiult.
This is why I think his probation officer should step in, but I doubt that they would. So what do I do? I can not believe that there is no accountability. Why does the custodial parent have to pay to get child support when there is a court order and the non custodial parent is on SUPERVISED probation. It makes no sense. I am really frustrated and don't know what to do. I am sure that if he was turned in he probably would quit his job, in which case my kids lose their primary insurance.