Collect Child Support Arrears

by Linda "VIP MEMBER"..............
(CA)

I had a court order of $200.00 monthly for child support when my daughter was four. (she is now 33) My ex husband paid off and on for approximently 2 years. I went through the D.A. and at the time they were converting to computers. Long story short it took over 2 years to get help as files were lost.

By then my ex paid $100.00 a month on occassion and said he would continue but as I stated only paid off and on (more off) for 1 - 2 years. Stupidly, I got tired of the system and gave up. I told my daughter she had the right to sue for arrears, but like her mother (me) she is "too nice" and did not want to "upset" her grandmother. (my ex's mom)See I NEVER kept my daughter from him (even though he never cared to see her or not)or his family even though he never paid and my daughter is close with his mother.

He since remarried and divorced. The second wife used him from day one to get citizenship and schooling. She stopped him from seeing my daughter (17 at the time)and having anything to do with us. Once her goals were met she divorced him but not without first having him take out a second on his home to pay her $260,000.00 plus he pays child support of at least $400.00 a month her auto insurance and is still listed on his current home.

They had two children who are 10 and 5 yrs of age at this time. My daughter is married with two children of her own. I fought this woman's refusal to allow my ex to be a part of his first born and granchildrens life for years. He turned his back on my daughter. I still insisted he see her, attend her wedding and see his first grandchild.


He started to try and make amends by becoming a part of my daughters life again when our grandaughter was born, at which time his wife got pregnant and again kept him away.

When I was married to him I tried attending night school to get a degree in accounting, he would not allow it. Every job I got he would cause a scene and I would have to quit.

I am disabled now and no longer able to leave my daughter and grandchildren anything. I can not stand by and watch my ex continue to pay for his other children and 2nd wife, still keeping everything in her name so if he were to die tomorrow savings, IRA's his home would all be left to her and she would give my daughter nothing.

I am owed over 12 years of back child support, not to mention my not being allowed to attend college while with him and could not afford it after divorce as he ignored court order to pay child support.

I was sole support financially and emotionally for my daughter. Can I now sue him for arrears? Can I put a lien on his home for the arrears? I just want my daughter to get what should be rightfully hers.

Regards,
Linda Clark