Child Support And Visitation
Are Separate Issues

Many parents don’t understand that child support and visitation are not one and the same. Although child support should and must be paid, most states separate visitation from paying support.

This means that a non-custodial parent has the right to see their children, even if they are not supporting them financially. This issue may be controversial, but must be respected.

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Visitation And Child Support Issues

Unfortunately some residential parents have the “you must pay to play” mentality when it comes to the kids. The children are innocent and should not be held hostage from either parent. Oftentimes, they don’t understand what child support and visitation is all about. They simply love mom and dad, and want both parties to be active parents in their lives. Keep adult business in its proper place.

If there is an issue with receiving child support, there is proper legal protocol to follow. If there is communication with the other party, contact them to express your concerns concerning a lack of financially responsibility. Give them a chance to explain their situation, or circumstance and make a decision accordingly. Child support has to paid, but when both parties are in agreement things can be worked out in a positive manner.

If you are not in good communication, or cannot locate the non-residential parent, you will have to contact child support to establish an order.

Another important aspect of child support and visitation, is to obtain a court ordered visitation schedule if you are the non-custodial parent. If you do not have this order, you don’t have any rights in certain states. A court ordered parenting time schedule establishes neutral ground. It creates a fair plan of action for both parents to abide by. There are certain pick up and drop off times for both parties. There is also a set standard on summer vacations, and holidays as well.

Having this order may eliminate various arguments, because everything is set in stone. But there are some exceptions to this rule. Most courts would rather that both parents simply work things out without having to abide by the order. It’s better if it can work out this way, but unfortunately this is not always the case. Sometimes it’s best to religiously go by the court ordered schedule to avoid any confrontation. This is true, especially when the children are present.


Benefits of a Court Ordered Visitation Schedule

Some of the most common benefits of having a court ordered visitation schedule are as follows:

  • The non-custodial parent can have access to all school, health, or agency records or reports that are related to and concerning the child(ren);
  • The non-residential parent can visit any child day care center which the child attends.
  • The non-custodial parent can attend any student activity in which the child(ren) participate.

So keep these factors in mind when dealing with child support and visitation issues. Children don’t understand the full scope of the situation, and this is adult business. They need both parents in their lives if all possible.

This will give them a better chance to grow up as mature and healthy adults. Always remember that the kids are your number one priority. Be sure that your planning and decisions are pleasing to them.


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