Child Support And Visitation Issues
Somebody help me!!!! I have a son out of wedlock and I had him in my care for 4 years!!! I paid all my hospital bills of 2500.00 and I also paid all his doctor's bills and childcare costs!!! his father agreed to pay me 50.00 a week and did for the first 6 months and then paid me 75.00 and a few times he didn't pay the first time was for 3 months and the 2nd time was for 6 months!!! and he was suppose to help me by watching his son but, he didn't!!!
There was a tragic incident in my life and I'm embarrassed to say this but, I began to abuse substances and child services gave my son to his father when he was 4 and he didn't even know his father because the only part of himself given to my son was the financial stated above!!! he didn't want a relationship with his son for his first 4 years I can count on my 10 fingers how many times he came by!!!
Now that the shoe is on the other foot and I AM NOW CLEAN FOR 3 YEARS!!!! I must pay 75.00 a week from the day he got custody, childcare costs, and doctor bills!!!! and I was told by the court appointed attorney that I can't get any credit for the costs that I paid during my 4 years!!!! Dr.bills, childcare costs and hospital bills for his birth I paid everything!!
I also have 3 other children and because they were in child protective services when this order was made I was told that I can't have it modified now that I am taking care of them once again!! I am completely buried in expenses and can barely keep up with the 75.00 a week when i am only getting minimum wage!!! and on top of all of this his father is not allowing me visitation!!!
I can't afford the court costs and I can't afford a lawyer!!! I do have a court order for visitation but, the CT court booklet on court procedures strongly urge people to get legal representation and to go it alone again???? WELL MAYBE THATS WHY I'M IN THIS MESS!!!!! I called legal aide but, because I had a live-in BF they go by his income and therefore I am not eligible!!! does anybody out there have any advice for me??? I miss my son