Child Support And Visitation Issues With Dead Beat Dad
My son’s biological father has never paid a dime in child support or visited with him in 4yrs. He has been ordered to pay $50.00 every month because he won't get a job or turn in pay stubs. Every time he lands a new girlfriend he wants to pretend that he wants contact with my son. After the girlfriend leaves him, he drops my son like a hot rock. I started dating a man 3yrs ago and my son has called him dad since he was 2yrs old. My son’s father has paid child support this entire year of 2009 for the first time. In August he was informed that I was getting married. After doing so, he landed another girlfriend and decided to get a lawyer by doing car work for her in exchange for legal services. He left me in a tough spot not being able to afford a lawyer because I was saving for a wedding. Feeling pushed into a corner, I let him have some visitation. Shortly after the visitation started my son was molested by one of my family members. A couple of months later, he pulled a hot pot of BBQ Sauce off the stove and burned his feet. It's now December and I haven't received child support for 2months.
I don't mind letting him visit if the father is following through with his responsibilities but, he's not. I want the father to either pay what he should be paying, plus bringing his balance up to date, or forfeit his rights so we can continue molding our family and home. I’ve been told that I'm in a catch 21 with the abuse my son has suffered plus the fact that if I take the father to court, the father will get more structured visitation. His father and I have not gone to court for visitation because he hasn't taken me and I've been told that he has no visitation rights but, if I stop the already started visitation I'll be taken to court and he'll get more visitation then I allow him now. Why does child support pursue dead beat dads when after a year of not paying child support, the father relinquishes all rights to the child. Why can the father go years without getting a job and continue to slide by with 50.00 a month? Why aren't all non-disabled men and women put at a standard of minimum wage for child support? Why isn't there some type of site that shows all these men running from their responsibility? That would at least detour some of the g/f that hear only his side of this saga, decide they want to call and tell me all about how I should give a little credit to these dead beats.